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Remember that time in April when we just picked up and surprised my family by driving 17 hours to South Texas and met them for dinner? It was probably in the top 5 moments of my life, seriously. Seeing my mom round the corner of the restaurant to find her daughter and family standing there — it was perfect. We still talk about it to this day!
So over Veteran’s Day weekend, Andrew and I both had Monday off from work. So on Thursday, he asked if I wanted to go to Texas. I responded with a resounding YES — duh. We planned to leave Friday night, and drive straight through until we arrived.
The kids just thought it was HILAAAARIOUS that they were getting to sleep in the car!
We didn’t tell anyone we were coming until we were two hours away, and even then, my mom didn’t see the text message we sent! She didn’t know we were in Texas until I called saying we were going to swing by and say hello, haha!
Over that weekend, we spent a lot of time just hanging out and being a family. We took the kids to ride go karts, ate good food, and enjoyed each other’s company. We also talked to my parents a lot about what they’re planning to do when they retire. I think they have an idea of what they’d like to do when the time comes, but being there also made me think about what we would do when they were a few decades into retirement. My grandparents (my mom’s folks) live one door away from my parents, and my mom and dad care for them quite a bit — they’re in their nineties, after all. It made me wonder what our lives would look like when my parents needed caring for. Will they still live in Texas? Will we eventually want to coax them into moving closer to us?
When the Holiday Visits Aren’t Enough
This trip served as a mini-holiday visit, with Thanksgiving and Christmas being right around the corner. Visiting for the holidays works for now, but I think there will come a time when we’ll want them to be closer in a more permanent position. Eventually, we will be playing the role of caregiver, and being a few states away makes that difficult. So how should you determine if it’s a smart decision to move your parents closer to you? When heading home for the holidays isn’t enough, it might be time to see if relocation is in the cards. Genworth Financial can assist you in your research.
I don’t know that we’re at that stage today. I do know that once we get to that stage, my kids will be over the moon to have their Meme and Papaw nearby :).