Three Years Later: Ashley

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Click to read updates for Emma, Micah, and Maisy. It's been three years, but when the calendar clicks over to April 17th, it's nearly impossible not to replay the events of April 17th, 2015, minute by minute. That morning, I sent Andrew a video of the kids while we waited in the drive through of a Dunkin Donuts for my morning coffee. From the back seat, they yelled out, "I love you, Daddy! Have a good day!" When I think about everything that led up to 11:45 AM when I got the phone call from him, I wonder if something I did or said triggered Andrew's decision to leave his office in … [Read more...]

Three Years Later: Maisy

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Click to read updates for Emma and Micah. On April 17th, 2015, Maisy was a clever three year old just three weeks shy of her fourth birthday. Even at a young age, she was totally aware that she had a lot to work with -- between her adorable freckles, frizzy curls, and hilarious sarcasm, she was just starting to come into a personality that would steal the hearts of everyone she met. Andrew was undeniably infatuated with Maisy. She was the light of his life, and they had a way of bringing joy to one another that was amazing to watch. With the close relationship she had with Andrew, I … [Read more...]

Three Years Later: Micah

I'll level with you: I was the most concerned for Micah when his father died in April of 2015. He was just one month past his sixth birthday, and for the few years leading up to that point, he had shown an inability to regulate his emotions that had become increasingly worrisome. Some of it can be chalked up to the fact that he was just a small child that was still developing, but the fits of rage that would pour out of this little boy was something that struck me to my core. Something I don't often mention is that in February of 2011, Andrew's dad died by suicide. In the weeks and … [Read more...]

Three Years Later: Emma

I was never one to really put a lot of weight behind articles that breakdown the characteristics and traits of a child based on their birth order. But what they say about oldest children seems to ring true for Emma. I've watched my oldest child grow up into an achievement-oriented leader who is an independent thinker, set out to live life on her own terms. When Andrew and I found out that we were pregnant with our first baby in 2006, I am the first to admit that I had no idea what I was doing. We were young parents -- I was just 19 when she was born -- and Emma was the child that would … [Read more...]

Plans and How to Break Them

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Facebook's "On This Day" feature has a way of making you feel like a major idiot sometimes. This week, I scrolled through my memories and stopped on a text-only Facebook post, made on June 13, 2010. "Watch out. Me and my 7 year plan are coming through!"  I literally laughed out loud at myself when I read it. Obviously, exactly 7 years have passed since I created some kind of grand plan. I have no idea what it entailed, but I believe I was enrolled in college at the time and was studying to become a Registered Nurse -- what a horrible idea that would have been -- even though I really … [Read more...]

Let’s go to Jamaica. #BeachesMoms

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You know that feeling when you literally work so much and spend so much time being a kid chauffeur that you book a trip to Negril, Jamaica and show up AN ENTIRE DAY EARLY? No? It's just me who does that? Because I did. Adam and I were lucky enough to be chosen to attend our second Social Media on the Sand conference, and this year brought us to Beaches Negril Resort & Spa. After spending the entire weekend packing up the kiddos and making sure the nanny had everything she could possibly need, I crammed all of my sundresses into a suitcase and we headed to the Phoenix airport for our … [Read more...]

That’s it. It’s time to get back in the game. #LosingItToLive

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Remember when I used to be all about eating well? Running? Losing weight and feeling better about myself? Well, y'all. It's time to get back to my roots. Life has been pretty much batshit insane for the past year, but I can't settle for excuses anymore. I'm so sick and tired of my excuses, and I'm ready to be proud of myself again. In the past two years, really, I've gained about 30 pounds. I'm sitting somewhere around 180 right now, and it just makes me so upset to think about all of the hard work that I put in from June 2012 to March 2013 when I went from 207 to 157. You guys, I worked … [Read more...]

When Your Year is Over

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This year did not go like I thought it would. That is to say, I did not think I would grow, crumble, find joy, experience gut wrenching heartache, burst with pride, and feel like the world was spinning faster than normal nearly every single day. I have to be honest. The southerner in me is compelled to write a Year in Review letter. I never have, I don’t think, but it’s only been because I never really felt like it was an authentic representation of my family and what had happened that year. This year, 2015, will be our first holiday letter. And it will probably be the hardest to … [Read more...]

Hello From Paradise! #BeachesMoms

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Guys. So remember when I posted announcing that I was going to be attending the Social Media on the Sand conference in Turks and Caicos at Beaches Resort? I'M HERE AND O M G. Look. Ocean. DRINKS. MORE OCEAN. You guys, this is everything I've needed lately. I've been going, going, going, non-stop since Andrew died. I've put the kids into sports and extracurricular activities to keep them busy, and to help them acclimate to our new normal. That also means I have to cart them around to those activities ;). I love every minute of it, but man. It's so exhausting. I'm so lucky that I … [Read more...]

Because Now I’m Happy

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"When am I allowed to be happy in public?" I asked this question in the very first post-suicide blog that I published. The answer is today. Want to see a list of things that I'm doing now that make me happy? Lucky you. I have one prepared. I swim with my kids. I actually go out and do social things. I take my kids to events that I wouldn't have ever attempted before. I started working out again. I even signed up for my third half marathon. and I dyed my hair an avant garde color (gray!) because I wanted to. But you know another reason I'm happy? It's because I've … [Read more...]